6 Heartbreak Tips
Whether it was a 3-year relationship or a 3-month situationship we all endure heartbreak from love at some point. I'm no stranger to a broken heart, but when you risk falling in love you also risk getting your heart broken. Since I refuse to give up on love it's no surprise that I'm constantly getting kicked down because of love, so this is how I deal with a broken heart.
LET YOUR HEART BREAK
Don't force yourself to get over them. When you push down your feelings it not only hurts you, but it can put physical stress on the body. Allow yourself to cry and feel hurt, reflect, and grieve the relationship. Give yourself time to get past your sadness.
FIND A NEW SOURCE OF JOY
Have you always wanted to try something new but never had the time or the guts? Now is the time to do all the things you didn't think you could do! Maybe you want to try tap dancing, or you've always wanted to start painting, try volunteering at your church. Whatever it is, go for it! It's time you think of yourself for a change.
DON'T STALK HIS SOCIAL MEDIA
The hardest breakups are the ones where you remain friends. You might see them post about how much they're enjoying their lives while you sit around at home still hurt by the breakup, and you don't want to block them or unfollow them because you're simply not on bad terms. No matter your circumstances it's best to mute their social media or find a way to stop seeing anything they post. Out of sight, out of mind.
REMEMBER YOU CAN'T CONTROL OTHER PEOPLE
We've all thought to ourselves "Was there something I could have done differently?" the answer is simply no, there wasn't. They are no longer in your life for a reason, avoid having the what-if mentality. During the last breakup, I went through I was told "I just don't have feelings for you" and my first thought was "What could I have done to make him have feelings for me?" Girl MAKE? Once you feel the need to force a relationship then maybe that person isn't meant for you.
GET YOUR IDENTITY BACK
When you first meet someone you like to show them your best self, and you try to keep being the best version of yourself for them. You might even mold yourself into their ideal person if they told you what that is. The problem with this is that we end up forgetting who we are and we end up feeling empty in the relationship wondering why. Now that you're free from the relationship you're left thinking "What now?" Do some self-care, start working out, eat healthily, and sleep properly. Start taking care of yourself and do the things you love.
GO OUTSIDE AND PRAY
Get some fresh air and enjoy some time with God. Remember you are not alone in this journey, from the beginning God has been and will always be with you. Go outside and be around his creation, pray, and ask for guidance during this time. He knows what you're feeling and what you're going through. Spend time with him and talk with him. He understands.
