Beginning Your “That Girl” Era

The New Year has come in full swing and it’s time to get your s*ht together!

Brutal right? But hear me out!

2023 was by far the worst year of my life. I lost so much and I found myself in a pit I felt I couldn’t get out of. The trauma I experienced affected so much of my life, my career, and my relationships. I was going through it. It wasn’t easy to just wake up and get moving. It took time and effort. We always say “New Year, New Me”. This year I’d like to encourage a new idea.

New Year, Better Me.

As we grow older and wiser we continue to enter new eras of our lives. We reminisce on the old versions of ourselves we used to love. For example, sometimes I hang onto the time when I was 15, traveling worldwide, with big dreams and little money. All I could do was wait to become who I deeply desired to be, yet here I am at 21 wishing I was her. Why?

She was confident, and badass.

Younger me had loud opinions and didn’t fear being disliked by others, people made fun of her, but she laughed and kept moving. She liked what she liked, and if you didn’t agree, whatever. Life goes on. She was still very confused, trying to figure herself out. She didn’t know how to navigate relationships or her friendships. She knew one thing though, she was THAT GIRL and nobody could tell her otherwise. As I look back on my favorite era of my life there is one thing I will be bringing back.

I love me. That’s it.

So now that we know where we want to be, and who we want to become. It’s time to start the process of entering the best era of our lives.

STAND ON BUSINESS

If you’ve been active on social media, you’ve heard this saying. Standing on business means standing your ground. Stand for what you believe in. If you have dreams chase them, don’t let anyone walk all over you or abuse your kindness.

WALK LIKE YOU OWN THE PLACE

When you walk with confidence, people will follow. Have you ever noticed a girl walking in a room and just felt this aura about her? She was ethereal, someone to admire. That girl is you. Walk with your head high, even if you don’t feel like that girl, the feeling will come.

DRESS FOR SUCCESS

People always say image is everything, and they would be right. Dress in clothes that make you feel like the best you. Forget what social media is telling you to buy, you don’t need that low-quality dress that you will only wear once. Find timeless high-quality pieces that make you feel like THAT GIRL.

THE NEGATIVE TALK GOES IN ONE EAR AND OUT THE OTHER

When you start to love yourself, others will hate you for it. Some people can’t stand to see someone happy with themselves and their lives. They will tell you to humble yourself, that your ego has become too big. It’s not easy to ignore it, but when you are confident in yourself their words will not affect you.

LEARN TO TAKE CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM

Negative talk and criticism are two very different things. If you made a mistake and someone is correcting you, don’t feel bad for making that mistake. Learn and let yourself be corrected so you can grow. Sometimes we see criticism as hate, nobody likes to be scolded for mistakes. People who care will try and advise you as best as they can, take their advice with love and an open heart.

IF YOU’RE HAPPY WITH YOUR LIFE, DON’T LET ANYONE TELL YOU OTHERWISE

It’s simply really, sad people don’t like to see others happy. Just continue to be happy. Ignore the haters.

SET BOUNDARIES

This one is quite important. We love our friends and family, but sometimes people tend to overstep the boundaries. Especially if you’re a naturally kind person who just wants to please everyone. However, as much as we love our friends and family, we need to tell them when they need to stop. If you’ve been a people pleaser your whole life you will get a lot of pushback. People are used to the version of you that’s easily accessible. You will dislike it at first, but you will soon be grateful to yourself for it.

ADD PEOPLE TO YOUR CIRCLE THAT WILL GROW WITH YOU

Some people want to hold you back. They might try to stop you from finding a way to elevate your life. These aren’t true friends. These are secret enemies. Let them go, or minimize contact. Don’t surround yourself with people that make you feel bad about yourself. Find people that want you to be successful, people that want to grow with you.

REMEMBER, YOU ARE THAT GIRL

Don’t you ever forget it.

xoxo,

Sarita