Is Traditional The New Modern in Relationships?
IN A PROGRESSIVE WORLD, MODERN WOMEN HAVE TRIED TO STEER CLEAR OF ANYTHING REMOTELY TRADITIONAL BECAUSE SOCIETY HAS TAUGHT US TO BELIEVE THAT TRADITIONALISM EQUALS SEXISM AND OPPRESSION. IT'S A BELIEF THAT LEAVES MANY YOUNG WOMEN SCARED OF HEALTHY TRADITIONAL RELATIONSHIPS, LEAVING US FEELING A SENSE OF GUILT WHENEVER WE LET MEN DO SOMETHING AS SIMPLE AS OPEN A DOOR. LATELY, WOMEN HAVE REALIZED THAT MEN PROVIDING AND PROTECTING ISN'T SUCH A BAD GIG.
IS TRADITIONALISM THE NEW PROGRESSIVE MOVEMENT FOR MODERN WOMEN?
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE A MODERN WOMAN?
The Urban Dictionary defines the modern woman as someone who "has done very well for herself and maintains or does not maintain a family." Modern women could have as many romantic interests as they see fit, the modern woman pursues affairs and is equal to the man when it comes to sexual partners. The modern woman doesn't need men, all they need is themselves to survive our world.
WHAT IS TRADITIONALISM?
Traditional relationships are defined as relationships in which partners fulfill roles based on their gender and stereotypical role expectations. In short, The Nuclear Family. Children who are raised in traditional households tend to witness less abuse compared to children in single-parent households, traditional families are also more likely to have the means to provide good healthcare for children.
WHY TRADITIONALISM INTRIGUES THE MODERN WOMAN
We must face the harsh reality that this is a man's world, women still get paid 77 cents to the dollar, and men control most of our government and dominate the workforce. The workplace wasn't made for women to succeed, for women to succeed in this modern society, we are forced to behave like men and enter our masculine energy. Traditionalism has opened the door to a world where women are accepted as feminine. Contrary to popular belief, being traditional can be very liberating for the modern woman, we aren't competing with men anymore we are now balanced with men.
THE TRADITIONAL WOMAN IS THE NEW MODERN WOMAN
A traditional woman is a feminine woman, a feminine woman has all of the nurturing traits it takes to connect to human beings in a meaningful and fulfilling way. It's compassionate, kind, empathetic, patient, and emotional. It's about embracing your intuition and creativity. The feminine woman is pursued, receives joyously and gives back, and is cherished for her feelings. We can enjoy our soft feminine side while still being independent, we can take care of ourselves but also accept being taken care of, and we are free to choose our futures whether that's motherhood or forever being a career woman.
WHY MODERN WOMEN ARE AFRAID OF TRADITIONALISM
The media works very hard at scaring women away from traditionalism, by giving sexist, abusive men a platform to speak. If you've been on the internet lately you will notice that many abusive men pose as traditional to validate their behaviors. They embellish the idea to young impressionable men, that women are nothing but objects and they are undeserving of respect. Unfortunately as seen not too long ago with a certain former athlete, young men have been embracing this idea. This terrifies women, who now refuse to even risk the idea of ending up in an abusive cycle and just opt out of the whole concept of traditional relationships.
TRADITIONALISM WEEDS OUT LOW-VALUE MEN
Unfortunately, many abusive men pose as traditional and charm a good woman into thinking he's a good man. Only to show later on he was a wolf in sheep's clothing. Modern men tend to be lazy and expect women to provide while they get to be spoiled in the name of new-age feminism. This is harmful because women are already expected to tend to the home and children but are now pressured to do the man's job as well, giving them 90% of the work. When we embrace traditionalism with modern adjustments we can weed out low-value men and allow healthy men into our lives. Healthy, masculine men appreciate and understand women, making real traditional relationships healthy and worth having.
IT'S A DIVINE EXPERIENCE
There is one thing traditional relationships have that contemporary relationships simply don't have... true romance. It's not about men opening doors and paying for dinner, it's about balanced energy. Every woman loves being protected and taken care of, it's not because we can't take care of ourselves we most certainly can. There's just something beautiful about taking a step back and relaxing while your love protects and provides for you, and in return, you give him a lovely home to return to. The gentle hug after a long day of work, and at the end of the day a kiss goodnight. Something so romantic and sincere, traditional love is true love.
xoxo,
Sarita